They are real. They do exist. Energy Vampires are all around us. Trying to drain our energy and throw us out of alignment and off course.
Whether it is in business or our personal life I want to share with you how I think you can protect yourself from energy vampires.
They Wear Disguises:
You might think that it would be easy to spot one, but often they are disguised as our friends family or loved ones. They are the hardest to deflect because we just love them so gosh darn much!
When I was around eight or nine I witnessed by first energy vampire. Unfortunately she is my Aunt. After I would spend the weekend with her I would come home and feel terrible about myself. She would tell me that I needed to be on a diet! At nine!! This makes me so sad because she planted a sea of doubt in my head at a very early age. That I wasn’t good enough. In fact most of our conversations revolved around diet, church and rules.
This got to the point where when the phone would ring, I would cringe because I knew I was about to get in shi*t for something.
My mom has always taught me to stick up for myself. And I eventually did find the inner strength to tell my Aunt hat what she was saying hurt me. Point being, if I can do it at 9 or 10 you can do it now.
This is a crying shame. When someone you work with hates their job so much that they are determined to make you hate it also. Or perhaps they are threatened by your confidence and overall ability. Jealousy can really reveal the worst in people.
A lot like when we were in the playground. “Oh, they are just jealous.” I remember telling my son the same thing when he was younger. Amazing still, how cruel people can be when you have what they want. Maybe it’s looks. Maybe because you are younger. Maybe because you don’t hate your job so they need to drag you down to their level.
This type of environment will absolutely suck the energy right out of you. It will also make you question yourself and your self-worth! It can cause depression and weakened relationships within your tribe.
I feel we need to identify these vampires immediately so we can better protect ourselves. We cannot let their bad negative energy in! It is contagious and should be avoided at all cost.
Of course I see this one all the time. A lot like a bartender or hairdresser, nail techs are treated as therapists. Clients come in and unload a lot.
I am a people person. I have empathy and can easily put myself in their shoes. This makes me a great person to talk with because I can really identify with these people. But it comes with a price.
After a long day of listening to trials and troubles it can become very hard to disconnect. Often feeling like I have the weight of the world on my shoulders because I am subconsciously taking on all of their stresses. This will result in me being totally drained and have zero energy left for my son and husband at the end of the day.
Our close friends can also do this to us. Sadly, without even realizing. We must learn to listen and love but also exercise our boundaries.
So if we are seeing energy vampires in our family, friends or even at work, how can we protect ourselves without seeming selfish or disconnected?
There are a couple tricks that I have used over the years.
Listen but don’t get sucked in:
Sometimes someone will just need to vent and get things off their chest so they can move on. When I am in this situation, I immediately become aware of what’s happening. I can literally feel the energy being drained from me as they start talking. I take a deep breath and imagine a shield or a bubble surrounding me. Now they can say whatever they like but it will not penetrate my bubble. I can listen and offer advice, but nothing is getting in. When they leave I will often shake my hands and move my body to try to get that negative energy off of me.
It’s not me, It’s not my life:
I use this one a lot. I have heard many stories that bring me to absolute tears. Asking myself what would happen if that were to happen to me?! Could I handle it?!
There goes the energy! Now I am focusing on fear and sadness. I believe in the law of attraction and believe that what we think about the most we manifest into our lives. So, this is a very slippery slope. I don’t want to manifest fear and sadness into my life at any cost! So while they are speaking or working through it I will repeat in my head “It’s not me, it’s not my life” over and over.
This is one major reason I stopped watching the news. I was just being inundated with sadness and devastation every time I turned on the TV. It takes energy to use this shield also, so I certainly don’t need to be adding any extra vampires in my life!
It’s time to purge:
Let’s start with Facebook. How many times have you scrolled through FB and come across a post or picture that makes you feel awful. I absolutely cannot stand posts that have to do with animal cruelty. It makes me sick to my stomach and will often run through my head all day long.
Or the person that always complains about their life on social. Never anything positive to say. Often playing the victim or my personal favorite, airing their dirty laundry for everyone to read. These types of posts affect our subconscious more than we realize!!
Simple solution. Unfollow, unfriend or hide future posts from these types. We can do it and not feel guilty. We are protecting our own happiness. And that is invaluable!!!
The hardest is putting a little space in between you and a friend that is in a toxic place. You can only do so much to help and listen. Then the rest really is up to them. I always try to offer as much support as I can while protecting my energy at the same time. Maybe referring them to someone who might be a little more qualified. After all, most of us aren’t therapists.
At rock bottom the energy vampire will leave us totally defeated. Often heading down the depression rabbit hole. If you are in a position where you cannot quit your job or quit your friends or family, I strongly suggest you start to put up some boundaries to protect yourself.
Stress, sadness and anxiety are proven to cause disease in the body. I truly feel for these people that are choosing not to see the light and love that surrounds them.
A wonderful book that I have read is The Magic by Rhonda Byrne. This book works as an amazing defense to protect our happiness and our energy. If you find yourself being surrounded by these vampires, I strongly suggest giving it a read. Within 28 days it will have you on the right track and help to defend against any future attacks.
We have a choice and we have a voice! I pray you choose faith in yourself. That you see and believe enough in yourself that you will do anything to protect your energy. I pray that you can protect yourself from energy vampires and stop them from throwing you off course.
I hope you are able to take away a little something from my article today. Please comment below and let me know what works best for you when you encounter these situations.
Good Luck Out There*
Cheyanne- The Nail Lamp Tramp