As a mother, wife, daughter, business owner, employee and dog mom I have had to learn the hard way how important it is to make time for myself.
How are we ever supposed to find success in these areas if we aren’t giving ourselves time to re-charge. If no one has said it to you today: Girlfriend, it is time to take care of you!!
I give you permission.
The Pressure to Succeed:
Yeah, you know her. The one on Instagram that has it all together. Always manages to wake up flawless, run her business and put a four course meal on the table seven nights a week. Never mind her three kids and flawless house that is always spotless!
Well I am here to assure you that she does not exist. The photos may tell you otherwise. But let us not forget that social media is often used as our highlight reel. Can you honestly tell me that this “woman” doesn’t get burnt out?
I would crash within a couple days of trying to keep up those appearances. Any of us would. Though I find so many of us try to push through. Trying to live up to a standard that really just isn’t attainable.
Why do we have this constant addiction to keeping up with the Jone’s?? My husband and I tried this keeping up lifestyle for a few years. Got the house? Check! Got the vehicles? Check! Credit Cards? Check! Makeup, bags, shoes, trips, stuff!!! $$$$
After about three years at this pace. We were spent. And broke! It took some serious self reflection and a little help from a credit counselor to get our heads on straight again.
I remember her asking my husband if he was “married” to his new truck. This one still resonates with me. Of course the answer is no. So the obvious response is “Well, time to get rid of it” I think we were so caught up in trying to “keep up” that we forgot what was really important.
So I guess my point here is, we can really waste a lot of time worried about what other people think. Or worried that if we don’t have that extra vehicle we won’t be considered successful. We are wasting a lot of time on this that could be much better spent on YOU or your family*
Ask For Help:
Let’s get back to our perfect suzy homemaker. I can promise you that she has some help. How else would she keep that house so clean, make those meals, love those children and have her hair and makeup done??!!
She probably has a house keeper, dog walker and a personal assistant or nanny. You also could afford this if you had over 10,000 followers on Instagram. But until then, how can we get the help we need to make more time for ourselves?
- Social Media
It is time to call in the reinforcements. And I’m not talking hours and hours, day after day. But what if you have two hours to yourself a week? That doesn’t seem like too much. Could mom or dad watch the little ones while you nap? Or shower? Or grocery shop?
Do you have a girlfriend that is crazy about dogs? Could she help you out one hour a week and take your pooch for a walk? I bet she would love to if you asked.
Are you swamped with year-end? Trying to balance the books for the family business and return phone calls and place orders? What if you put a little post on Facebook: ISO someone who loves numbers more than me! I bet you could find an overly qualified student to help you out for a minimal cost.
It is OK to ask for help. ALL of the most successful people on the planet ask for help. Please stop trying to take on the whole world.
Listen, I know you are Wonder Woman, but even she had a sidekick!!
What Makes You Happy?
This question might take a minute to answer. Chances are if you are feeling overwhelmed you haven’t had time lately to ask yourself what makes you happy. What do you want to do if you had some free time?
Let’s start with the little things. When my son was under a year old my favorite thing to do, without him, was to go to SuperStore. That’s right! If I had an entire hour to myself to stroll the isles, check out lip glosses or, god forbid, even try on some clothes, well it might as well have been Christmas!!
Do you like to read? Take long baths? Go for a run? Sleep?! This is where I would start making time for myself. Let’s get back to what makes you tick. What makes you happy.
I know guilt likes to rear its ugly head at this stage. That career you have worked so hard for. That family you have always dreamed of. Those dogs, you chose to rescue. They may have been the things you and I have always prayed for, but I promise you we all need to take a break. Please stop feeling guilty for needing to take time for yourself. I know for a fact that we are better at our “jobs” when we are rested, happy or re-charged. You deserve it girl!
How do I make more time for myself? Start asking for some help. Stop the shame game and decide that your happiness is worth it too! Stop comparing yourself to “Suzy” and be proud of your own accomplishments.
It is time and it is OK to take care of YOU!
Please like comment and share if you are making time for yourself! I want to here from you 🙂
Good Luck Out There,
Cheyanne – The Nail Lamp Tramp